Sadly, the old joke—with more than a hint of truth to it—goes something like this:
She: I need to know that you love me.
He: Well, if I didn’t love you I wouldn’t have married you.
She: But, that was twenty years ago.
He: If my feelings changed I would have told you.
Or, how about this version:
He: I need to know what you would like from me to show you I love you.
She: Well, if I have to tell you, it doesn’t mean anything to me. If I have to ask you for flowers and a dinner out, I’m not going to do it. It doesn’t mean anything to me.
Ouch!
Love requires action – thoughtful action. It is not enough to feel it.
